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I believe He does and forgives me every time we do. Now that it is more like therapy, He forgives me even more.
Aug 06, Christian members please remember to read the Statement of Purpose threads for each forum within Christian Congregations before posting in the forum. I have posted the same subject about 1 year ago regarding oral sex before marriage and I . "Sex before marriage is bad." This was the extent of my understanding of Christian dating as a teenager and young adult. And to my church's credit, they drilled this one point home constantly. Jul 26, Is it really that bad for Christians to have sex before marriage? Are there any consequences to sleeping with someone you're going to end up marrying? Yes there are. You just don't know it yet.
I know in my heart Johnny his name will be together for the rest of our lives, we are engaged. I have to believe Our Heavenly Father sees each of our situations by judging our hearts. There is ZERO lust here. To merely felt relieved of these intimate feelings. Thankyou in advance.
Im surrounded by a lot of negativity about religion. I was once so into my faith and I was happy but since then I have drifted. I believe in God but somedays that belief is stronger than others. I need some advice on practicing abstinence with my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months now and have been having sex very often but now he needs to stop.
I love him very much and he loves me just as much. I want to be supportive but this is a huge change. I believe we can work this out and have a future along with him leading me back to my faith. I just want some words that will make this change in our relationship seem worth it, with no negativity.
Good luck! The guy he goes church here and there but believes in God.
Does this mean we cant be together or can we start again and not have sex? Does this work or do we have to break of completly? Hi Danielle, This sounds like a tricky situation- and one I have totally been in before!! That is such a hard choice to make and I would get some wise Christian friends around you and pray the decision through. The most important thing to remember is that there is grace for you xx.
There are penalties that we experience. He has found another lady in the church that not only will have sex but belies in living together. It is painful to see them in church but I know this too will pass. That quote is not said enough! Thank you for being open and sharing your experiences but also with truth.
What does the Bible say about sex?
As someone who struggles with sexual sin, it can be hard to believe grace extends after continously struggling for years in one way or another. Plus, Not so many websites just tell to stop having sex but few seem to remind of the good news of the cross, forgiveness of sins, reconciliation with God, and nothing can separate us from that love.
You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master. He is proud of you and and rejoices over you with loud singing. Also, sexual sins tend to leave one open to more sin stagnancy and emotional problems like anger and depression heard these are consequences and since a person cant change the past,how do they help the future. What about chemistry in marriage? What happens then? Hi Anon, If there is enough chemistry between two people for them to get married, then I believe that a desire-less marriage is not a possibility.
There needs to be attraction and compatibility there before marriage, and while sex can be complicated and awkward at first, if two people are right for each other it can be worked on and made into something amazing! Ive been born again for 4 yrs nowand since then havent dated any1 or have sex with any1.
Cause when i receive christ ive made a convenant with God that i am not going to live my old daysas i was meditating with the book of Romans For all this years praying with that schripture my flesh where able to die till today.
The olny thing that comes to me this daysis feeling lonely and sad at the same time. Dont slip back into ur old ways of living to satisfy ur own desire. You didnt know any better then. But now you must be holy in everything u dojust as God who chose u is holy. For the scriptures sayyou must be holy because i am holy. But this lonelines its just coming by force. As Joseph did in the bible, run from temptation!
Christian dating and sex before marriage
Sex was designed by God for marriage only for our protection. There are no exceptions to this law. Christian women should not be marrying non believers. As the bible clearly states there is no fellowship between light and darkness. Hi Cynthia, Like you I can relate to your feelings of loneliness when it comes to obeying the word of God and living as Christ intended us to live. Then I slipped up and went back to my old way of living and dating.
Dating a new man who shares my faith but like this blog says dating and choosing to love through the imperfections is constant battle. I applaud your dedication and obedience. You are a lot stronger than you think. Remember that nothing is a wait of time, it only takes time, so be patience with yourself and with God to show you what He has for you!
I believe in you and you can do this!!! God was there for you before you BF so remember to magnify God as He should be. Be blessed girl! I totally agree with the statement preaching against abstinence and waiting for the right partner for sex in marriage. Sex appears simple to have, yet its the most complicated thing in the world if done outside the confines of marriage.
A slow killer indeed and a disruptor is many Christian marriages.
It bring s a lot of confusion, frustration and anger, not to talk of the accompanied guilt that lingers for a long period of time. God creates sex for the pleasure of man and woman, but the wrong use of it can destroy one mentally and emotionally. I am 56 years old. Divorced twice from 2 abusive marriages.
I contracted a STD virus from my second marriage which kept me from getting sexually involved with guys I was dating. However now I met an amazing, but non Christian gentleman who respects my boundaries about touching and sex. He loves me and respects my wishes but is confused. He has been wrecked by parochial school and their twisted application of God.
And also show him scriptuture about purity? All the scripture is about adulterous affairs and incest. Colossians says to cast away these sins of the earthy nature. A sin is a sin and God will forgive you if you repent but you have to strive not to continue to do these sins. I know this can be very hard but I encourage you to lift him up and get him back into scripture the correct way. God talks about being unevenly yoked and I am suffering in a relationship because of it.
I had the same issue with a guy I was dating. Well I put myself in a bad situation with him we agreed to sleep in the same bed without having sex. He ended up asking me to have sex but I was to naive and felt pressured to say yes because of the moment we were in. So I ended up sad, regretful and angr angry for my mistake. I told the guy how I felt and he apologized.
He felt guilty. I asked him to pray with me about not allowing that to happen again. He did agree that he would not ask me to have sex again. He actually promised he would wait till I was ready and he promised to marry me.
However, the next time we stayed together he pressured me again by blindsiding me to ask me if I wanted to have sex. This time it caught me off guard and I found myself again disrespecting my values. This time I told him I think we needed some time apart to think about our sexual sin but he got angry at me and immediately dumped me only to date another woman right after or before dumping me.
Instead he dumps me tells me to never every talk to him and then he has his aunt call and cussed me out because I tried to ask him about his sexual STD history. I had supported, encouraged, and prayed for this young man while we were together. I learned my lesson about trusting guys who claim they are a Christian and a man of integrity.
I left a comment when I first found this site June 24th. I really hope this post get published because I have been to share my testimony on how i got my lover back.
So much is going on right now. Dr Mack was a great helper when my Husband broke apart from me but he later came back after i used the service of Dr Mack.
Very good comment.
I being in a relationship for eleven year. We both attend church rarely and read the word.
However, we are not marry but having unmarried sex, which I feel bad afterward. I feel we should be marry by now. What about the woman at the well? In JohnJesus talks with a Samaritan Woman. What should we learn from that example? The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. You must be careful because you are linked with the first person you lose your virginity to. Abraham got married again but only after Sarah died.
Solomon was promiscuous even though he was married. Mary and Joseph were virgins before they married and stayed that way until after Jesus was conceived. So as you can see there is no perfect example of marriage in the bible because there are no perfect people but if you want to avoid the wrath of God, do not neglect his teachings. I am the perfect example.
I had an awful ordeal. So learner from experience to trust in God, examine myself, consult the word first, do not put your trust in man and seek God first.
They are more than teachings. They are a lamp to my feet. And a light to my path. Psalm and keep his commandments if you are his Deutoronomy There are a lot of things in this world that can hurt you and like the article said sex can be one less thing to hurt you because no one is perfect and we all sin either intentionally or unintentionally.
So be wise take heed what you learn from reading the bible and be careful of the things planted in your head by word of mouth unless it matches up with the bible. The devil roams about like a lion seeking whom he wants to destroy and he can jump in people by means of spirits.
Notice you are likely to be a lot like the people you are around. There are good spirits and bad spirits and waiting for sex can actually be a protection against bad ones. Just always, always, always seek God first. Faith in God also includes faith in His timing. Never give up hope. How magnificent would it be to lead your boyfriend to Christ? Be the salt and light and continue to lift him up in prayer.
And the word of God is alive. Listen to what God says and stop having intercourse until marriage. He is the pie.
What Does the Bible Say about Sex before Marriage?
There will be days when life is crashing down, your faith is wavering, and the only thing left is your spouse. This is the beauty of a sanctifying marriage.
Without a Christian spouse, one of two things will happen: you will drift away from God or your spouse will become a functional god more on this later.
Without a Christian spouse you will either drift away from God or make your spouse a functional god. LookChristians are called to be missionaries. The dating world, however, is not the place to be a missionary. So, date Christians. Marry someone who loves Jesus. And spread the gospel as missionaries together. If you have no idea what values are important to you in a future spouse, exit the road to marriage at the next off ramp. Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse.
Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Yesthis is a primary value. If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage? Nothis is a secondary value. Ever handled a shotgun? If not, let me fill you in. When you pull the trigger, these balls spread over a large range, increasing the chance you hit the target.
Five of those should be keepers. Hopefully one will end up as my spouse. Not a good idea.
Let me explain. Get to know yourself. Suddenly, when marriage begins, you are asked to flip a switch.
Jan 02, What is an appropriate level of intimacy before marriage? How far is too far for an unmarried couple to go physically? or that could be considered foreplay. Many pastors and Christian counselors strongly advise a couple to not go beyond holding hands, hugging, and light kissing before marriage. What does the Bible say about sex before. The discussion around sex in our culture and churches is a very convoluted one. Let's try to answer a few questions Christians have about sex before marriage such Author: Amanda Idleman. Mar 17, I have found that the main challenges facing Christian girls (and the ones I struggled with HUGELY) are dating non-Christians, not having sex before you're married, and the christian relationship myth! I'll briefly touch on these three things from what I've .
Date with a trajectory towards marriage. Date intentionally. God knows it is not good for man to be by himself. Enter Eve, pro-creation, and marriage not necessarily in that order.
And the most intimate community on earth is the relationship you will have with your spouse. So, pray for God to send you a spouse.
What is a biblical level of intimacy before marriage? Those who ask this question are usually looking for guidelines regarding physical boundaries in dating. However, intimacy is a much broader issue than physicality. A dictionary definition of intimacy talks about close friendship, deep emotional connection, and sexual involvement. "I am a Christian and I have sex with my girlfriend. I believe I'm going to marry her, but I want to know where in the Bible it says not to have sex before marriage." Learn what the Bible says. Sep 24, If you believe Christ died on a cross for your sins and you are trusting in Christ alone for your salvation, Christ commands you to pick up your cross and follow him (Matt. ). Sex outside of marriage is a sin, no matter how a person tries to interpret Scripture otherwise, and every Christian is called to obey God in this ct of life Author: Le Ann Trees.
Can you imagine how constantly hearing this question from friends, family, and unsuspecting old ladies makes some singles believe they have a problem?
See it as an opportunity to serve God. When you date, allow the community of people around to speak into your relationship. Your feelings can deceive you. I know too many men and women who refused to listen to people around them, and their prideful arrogance resulted in a failed marriage. Find men and women you trust, and allow them to speak into your relationship. The problem? In the process, I filled my heart and mind with lust, and I secretly struggled with pornography. Christians, instead, need to teach the importance of a pure mind.
A pure mind might be the greatest gift you can give your future spouse. It allows you to jump into marriage with a clear conscience.
The Christian Dating Boundaries No One Talks About
No baggage. No comparisons. No regret. Just you, your spouse, and God. A pure mind is the greatest gift you can give your future spouse.