I am a newly divorced single woman over We got married, we had kids, we grew apart. We have been divorced for 2 years and although it saddens me that my family has been broken apart, I am happy that my ex and I have have managed to be civil enough to make it okay for the kids. What I find most interesting at this point is the whole dating scene. There is such a difference between what is available for men and woman. Here is what I have found:. For single men the options are plentiful.
Beyond saying, "You're really cute and you live near me," you can add that like the woman you're contacting, you also play tennis and enjoy jazz.
Dating sites have disadvantages. Some of the members are flakier than piecrust. They seem interested, but after a few e-mails, they disappear. Or their phones are disconnected.
Or they stand you up. Who knows? One theory is that many are not single. They're coupled but bored, and hope to reassure themselves that they're still attractive by hooking men like you. What's more, profiles often lie. One study found that on average, people claimed to be an inch taller than the national average.
Women said they weighed 20 pounds less than average. Most claimed to be "more attractive than average" - 72 percent of women, 68 percent of men. Tip: Tell the truth.
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As soon as you meet, she'll see your height and weight and how attractive you are. Dress for success. You may be wonderful, but if you look like a total schlump, women will flee.
Trouble is, many men hate shopping for clothes.
If that's you, get help. Ask a friend, preferably a woman, to accompany you. Consider getting a manicure and pedicure. Plan to spend a day - yes, guys, one entire day - and one to two weeks' income on your makeover.
Keep condoms handy. One pleasant surprise about dating after 50 is less groveling for sex. After a few dates, most older women feel fine about going horizontal, and don't care if your erections are iffy or gone. However, they don't want sexually transmitted infections STIs.
So use condoms until you're monogamous. Dating isn't mating. Just as gold miners move tons of rock to find a few nuggets, you'll probably have to date dozens of women before you find Ms. If you know that a budding relationship has no future, don't waste your time or hers.
Brilliant and I can relate so much to you. Women when they get older start to lose what men are attracted to. If men are not physically attracted to you then they will not pursue you.
Women are also attracted to looks. Young Women are not designed to be attracted to infertile old men. I agree, RP. I have been online dating in my own age group. Most women my age are not sexually attractive, youth, excitability and plump skin is sexy. However those few women that have got it are naturally very selective and sought after. I am not looking for a physical relationship with 50 somethings yes I get wood though the ladies would like physical sex.
Welli am a married man of 54 years looking for 60 and 70 year old pretty women thst want a nice sexy relationship. Brig you might try dating a few men who are just a bit younger since you say you look younger.
I not talking really young but maybe mid to late 40s or early 50s. My dad was that way. I am always amazed that people do not understand. Men your age use myself as an example are still very horny women my age post menopause are no longer interested in a sexual loving relationship - they are done with sex.
Women are done at men around so it make sense for a man to go for a yr younger women. No thanks. Your are an idiot for generalizing. So get over yourself.
Turn it around and interview them. Your the man it is your job to interview not the irrational women. Good grammar will take you far. Even with the young gals. Trust me. You actually know of a rational woman!
The ignorance and arrogance within some people causes them to stereotype others. Best to avoid them. It may well be that friendship first is a good rule, not having expectations for effort and not being used for validation allows you to set your value. It is you that matters and how you behave that gives you pride in yourself - what missing part of you will be completed by dating or a relationship maybe address that first. Too bad you and I live on opposite coasts! The problem with men is they look for beauty on the outside.
Maybe if more men would look there non of us would be alone in our 50s. Double bingo!! And even if you find someone that wants to date youafter one date they already start implying sexual stuff. That takes time. I will need to develop feelings for you. Is that too much to ask for? To have feelings before you get all touchy feely with me? Many women have wonderful personalities and beautiful hearts.
Some just look at pictures and move on, they never read my profile. So it happensto both men and women who would give per cent each. I wished a lady would take time to read about me markww2 on pof in Houston. You go guuuurl! Ever heard of a spellcheck!? I get feeling you will be alone for a very long time. Hi sarah! How are you? So both men and women are superficial. Signed up to a dating site- guy kept asking tell me about yourself.
I did. Divorced twice. I picked men that were wrong for me. My fault but as soon as I shared poof! Men are gone. I am fit,attractive, employed,debt free, own my home, and am making it despite no child support.
I have 2 great teens that will soon be gone. I am a stable person that was desperate for a family and married for that. No one will touch me. I figure if God wants me in a relationship he will plant a man in front of me.
I just wish my life had turned out differently. In my experience, when middle age women say that they are fit and attractive, they look for the same in men.
We are talking about people over 50, whose bodies are way different than they were 20 years ago. When women say that they are fit and attractive but they are not looking for the same in men, they still send the same message. There is nothing wrong with looking for the best fit and attractive guys but with age the odds are getting drastically smaller for you.
In this age group, I see way more overweight women than men and this is very unattractive. Most or maybe all who chat me up look like guys, seriously. Young women tend to be much slimmer, sex with them is on a totally different level. Plus they like or at least are not afraid of showing their bodies. After that comes personality, but this is another subject.
Really guy? Please refrain from your arrogance about looks. Get over yourself. Check yourself before you wreck yourself Seymour Heiny. Did you give your self that name because you are sugar-coating what you see when you look in the mirror? Have you ever heard of grammer check? Or maybe you should consider going back to adult school for a high school diploma. It is hard to even consider you as an adult!
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Christian servant. Not out there. Why is it hard to connect to good souls? Looking for someone who wants to just start out slowly. Looking to meet someone who would appreciate starting out slowly. If interested, please reply.
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I am looking for a church going woman that is not over religious because of my moral values. I am 71, in good health, intelligent, interested in all things related to humans, caring, want a final life partner to talk with about life, enjoy activities together, travel some, enjoy family gatherings. I want to do good things for good causes and contribute my little bit to a better world.
I was in business and retired into charitable work and family, separated in Dechave an 8 year old son that I love dearly, unfortunately mom moved him north and we see each other Sundays and connect on phone two evenings a week.
Not sure how access will be increased as she is unwilling to do so as she wants to raise him in her religion which is different than mine. Anyway, I hope to be back enjoying my self with a woman in the not to distant future, we can talk on phone if you like or by email so we can exchange photos.
It would be nice to meet some of the good people on here, but this is not a dating site. Try some other venue. Good luck to you! That sounds tough. I hope, in the year since you wrote this, that you have met someone who is good to you and good for you. Greg - I hear you. My ex-wife 20 yr marriage celebrated turning 50 with several brief affairs, never ever dreaming I would find out.
So where are all the single, fit, something women? What am I missing? Evidently at 50 I am missing something too. I would gladly settle for just one. Not every on run after younger women, I like older one. Its amazing this thread continues after all this time. If not a dating sitethen how do people like us meet? I know a few that do this and when I ask them out, they look at me like I had two heads. They go through more drastic changes than men do at this age.
So in many cases it can be understood. The problem is that when they do go out or advertise themselves online, they rather go for a brief encounter with a decent guys instead of a matching ones. I know those, too. No self criticism. My guess is that they are still dreaming about that prince, like little girls, hoping that an awesome guy will fall in love with them. Well, women are more emotional, not as rational as men so this also should be understood. I get hits from women older than me, even 10 years older!
What are they thinking? They look like my mother. The luckiest guys over 50 are those who enjoy sex with older, overweight women and have enough energy to go to gym regularly.
I have a couple of good friends like this, so I tried that too. In my experience, personal hygiene was in par with their weight.
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Well, this also should be excused because it is harder to keep large body clean than the tiny one, especially in hard to reach areas. I hope it answers your question. Never thought about the smelly part. After being there for him through drug rehab and all his other addictions; my 58 year old ex told me he was going to go find a BBW that has a secure job and can take care of him and all he has to do is service her once in awhile.
What type of fridged and cold woman do you end up with. Holy crap. I am appreciative of the feedback although it is a little brutal. Just your normal everyday wtf insecurity stuff. I have no idea what my future holds. I am a bit terrified. I never thought this was going to be it. My family was forever, I believed that. Regardless, to the guys contributing, thanks for your two cents. It is much appreciated.
Wish you all the best in finding your happily ever after. Im approaching 60, still attractive with only a few extra pounds and very creative. But I my experiences were that men wanted me to put my faith into them, yet they really werent there for me.
Now I just want to make more money for my older needs as I never found Mr. Men are not wild about women with a child from a difficult ex They dont want problems so theyll just get out of it w young woman.
Sussn - I empathize, but let me share what I uncovered. Very well said Greg. We had a failure in communication that seemed to start breaking down as the kids were leaving for college. There have been wonderful happy times raising three gorgeous children, 2 in college 1 in mid teens, all seem to be happily adjusted life is good. However, about 5 years ago I discovered with her help a little problem in my family called alcoholism and cleaned up my act many years ago and got sober.
However she continued to drink. This was, I believe, part of the problem. I love you go away! They will need me. However these types of relationships are very destructive to us and is modeled by our children.
So the behavior might not be of a psycho it might be behavior modeled after our parents! Give us a break! It also includes people who were raised in other types of dysfunctional families. They tend to be very responsible and take very good care of others which helps create the delusion that everything is normal but we guess at normal. Many of us live in denial about this thinking that our parents were wonderful role models for how to love our partners stop and think how many times did you see your mother and father hugging?
How many times do you remember your mother hugging you? Those were two very eye-opening questions for me. But ladies, do your homework on narcissistic abuse before dating a guy that seems too good to me true.
Holy shit, Valerie. Skip is speaking his truth, which is actually pretty heartbreaking and painful for anyone that has walked that path.
So, not a narcissist, just a divorced dad, trying to do the next right thing and not get kicked for it. Getting out of mine! Only good thing were 2 beautiful grown children doing very well for themselves.
Yep, even a 83 year old retired Baptist minister stated that after menopause the only thing they want is money and that they are no longer interested in the physical side.
To Dave from Dave I agree, I tried my luck at 2 dating sites for about six months, and not even a wink or a smile. Women do seem to make more of the mans looks rather than anything else. I have much better things to do with my time than waste it with little chance of success.
Even if you found a woman believe me after a while you would not live up to her expectations. We are in an anti malewomen are the victims of men period in history. Stay single keep your money and rent sex if you need it that bad. Hi Dave My name is Sophie 3. I have been were you are. It would be nice to meet someone who is honest, looking for someone their age not 20 years younger.
I usually start my profile letting men my age know I am disabled with MS. Does not stop me from living, things just take longer. Especially music wise. My favorite is the Blues and always rock and roll. My life did a I like to say but as I have been told I have lived all ready for 3 people. Things have changed for me but I am still going to live just not enough for 3. I am in the Boston area. Maybe a bit of a chat. Sophie 3. Im 54 and I am on a couple of dating sites.
I post just my profile picture, username, age and city and that is it! I get 25 to 30 messages a day from different woman and an average of 45 - 50 that have viewed my profile. So I have to agree with Dave. You can meet someone at any age. I think that women Kitty is a jackass. If you are looking, you will find someone. These are negative stereotypes and utter bull. John, you are so right. Be open to your likes as well as the person in your life and above all be honest. Life is definitely easier for women!
It is insane to think otherwise. Consider a few facts: 1. Women have the ability to go out an any given night and be outnumbered 3 to 1 by men. Men are looking for someone to just acknowledge them. Does anyone really believe that men are not the most docile people in the ordinary family. Consider the body differences ovulation and PMS and just consider how often women are friends with other women.
Men have friends from childhood. Women rule the world and it is not pretty behind closed doors. Case in point why men are looking for younger women. That means emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physical. I have nothing against sex and I feel it is an important part of a successful loving relationship.
Hi Debbie, I read your last couple of replies and agree with you about sticking to your values. Do not let anyone make you feel differently. I do enjoy sex and I crave that closeness with a loving partner. If you men want the younger women then go for it.
I prefer someone around my age because I will have more in common with that man and hopefully they will have the same level of maturity.
Wow no comparisonBest love I have ever had. Not all are divorced - some are widowed as I am. Kathy, I am a guy who has an older lady friend and we are very open with each other. She is still quite beautiful at 70 and is newly divorced. She told me that her husband has ED problems and has for years. The last time I talked to her she was thrilled at how many young men were wanting to date her. She is still quite sexual and has had several men much younger, says she feels like 30 again.
As much as I still enjoy sex at 50, for me sex is a special act, sacred even, shared between two people who really care about each other.
I think it is the most precious gift you can give another person. Those are just my standards. I will date to find my forever friend and marry and then consummate the marriage. Giving myself away to a man with sex is degrading. The relationship ends and where are you? There are many women in other cultures who do not have sex before marriage and they expect to be seriously pursued by men who are capable of supporting then as well as their families on certain cases and it end up producing very long-term and successful marriages.
Maybe American women should study the other cultures too see if any of their practices would work for them. Ya, I caught that as well. It is a medical fact that women past menopause no longer desire sex what I do not understand is why women are on dating sites when they are no interested in the physical side - at best it is very nasty.
At least there are women over 50 who are honest in the descriptions and make it very clear that they are no longer interested in sex. That makes us all feel so much better. Thank you. Yes freindships are important but to say that the chances of finding someone are THAT bleak is just mean. I live on this world for over 50 years.
I have friends and coworkers dating women from online websites, casual encounters, everything. And I never saw a guys over 50 with women 20 years younger. Except celebrities who can really do it, all talk about guys preference to date women the age of their daughters is just a cliche.
Not true at all. I see this repeated on this website many times and I wonder where it comes from. This is just a BS. They ALL come with children and usually they are from different countries so they also upgrade the lifestyle for their children. That is my experience. Sorry ladies. Everyday Joe gets anything he can put his hands on to save money on massage with happy ending. Old, overweight, dressed up as men, with bad hygiene and horrible attitudes, full of baggage from previous marriages.
These guys hope for the best, do their best, try very hard, and eventually run away from them. Usually the next morning. I see this happening over and over again. It happened to me, too.
What a terrible thing to say. This is definitely a generational thingand my generation just did not produce great relational partners. We are the transitional generation. The peanutbutter between the baby boomers and turn of the century kids. We got the shaft being middle kids. Nice attitude.
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I choose to keep an open mind and not judge people. That I find hard to believe! I live in Boise, Idaho as a male, it is horrible. So, women do have it better at least here in the Treasure Valley, Idaho. Guess that depends on what part of the country they are in. The ratio here in Boise, Idaho favors women. I am moving to Raleigh, NC in a few days. Kinda getting sick of it!
When most of the people here are married or have a girlfriend, the odds go down. You will find someone, men are not all the same. Not all men in their 50s want to start a new family, with a younger lady. We might want to be able to relate, talk about commonalities etc.
Men might be fun shy by 50, not wanting drama, or gold diggers. So find your match, might have to look harder. As for men older than you, be aware that those years and our shorter life span conspire. So you are 65, and that dude is 75 with less miles and poorer health prospects. We know people in that boat 65 year old lady, who cannot travel with her less than healthy hubby.
Food for thought. Kitty, Interesting. I became a widower in after nearly 20 years of marriage to my same age partner. She died just after our 50th birthday.
We had sons ages 14 and 16 in the home. She died of breast cancer. I had not dated much prior to my marriage primarily due to my career demands in a family business. But I enjoyed being a family man. I started going out about a year after becoming a widower. My wife had two children from prior marriage who were outraged. Our two sons were ok with me going off. I would not call it dating at first. Looking back, I was learning to breathe again.
Some women were mean. I am an inherently monogamous person, but several women had casual sexual relations with prior lovers while showing serious interest in me.
One lady asked me to work on her computer and while there, discovered her midnight escapades, sometimes after I dropped her off from an evening.
One received a call on her phone machine while I sat in living room and she in her bathroom inquiring if I had left yet and to call, he was circling the block. One called me late one evening, drunk, to tell me she missed me. I had gone camping with my sons. She was a Sunday school teacher. I went to her house to find her passed out in the floor, door unlocked. We talked. My point is, it is really confusing out there.
Me get mixed signals. Usually a sign of some extended emotional codependency going on involving sex. Hi, I am 72, wid0wer, my wife had been sick for 10 years, some time at home, then a Care Home, then a Nursing home.
I have been out with some ladies, I am amazed. They were or were old enough to be nannies, They are nothing like you would think of a nanner. They appear to have been to the gym for an hour a day! I am not complaining, as I see sometimes 2 or 3 one week, then 4 another week. Excellent content. But, if any of you ladies know of any ladies in Treasure Coast Fl that would like to connect and have some fun just email me or contact me 7 7 two 9 nine nine right 1 three 3.
Than why bother looking for someone? I could say is hahaha. The grass is greener on the other side. Because women are never satisfied. Emotionally sexually.
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Financially men are never Rich enough. Your wisdom is flawed. Lumping all women into one category is ignorant. I did all I could to prevent it. Some men are the ones not satisfied, even when they have a faithful, supportive, loving spouse. I am recently divorced August I agree. You have to be happy first.
Men my age play too many games smdh. Good luck men with those 40 somethings with young children. I am your age and younger men than me are being attracted to me. Initially when I became single again I gave those men attention, after few dates I found them extremely boring.
I simply ignore the attention they give me. Since my separation I had many accomplishments at work and i rebuild my social life as a single woman with many friends.
I am very happy being single. I know I will continue to have great accomplishments with or without a man in my life. I have a son who I have great relationship with. We reads books together and we are interested in the same issues. He gives me great support for all my work accomplishments. When he will leave the nest I probably will feel lonely, but I will not waste my time looking for a man, because the selection is.
You have to remember that this time what you are looking for is not clear. The first time you wanted husband house and kids.
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The second time the wants are not that clear and therefore more difficult to find. Also you have to remember that we live in a disposable society if something is not quite right about someone we simply dump him. That makes it more difficult to get to know people. The question will be if you will do something about him or simply let him go.
English your second language? Your post says not to give up but is about how you gave up because of you need for constant entertainment rather than compatibility. Not amount of education and social status will ever be attractive to a straight man. You bore easily because YOU are the bore. Most people want to find a friend or a life partner, and to meet the dates who may fulfill this desire, many somethings, about 80 percent in fact, do it the old-fashioned way - through friends or family.
One-quarter use dating websites. Dating after 40 or 50 means taking control of your love life, just like you do the rest of your life. It means being kind to yourself and the men you meet. It means making good choices. These are for the woman who is done repeating the same mistakes, and is ready to find her grown-up love story. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates.
Nothing positive can possibly come from this, sister. Steer clear of these topics until you know each other better.
Yes, I know he said he was going to call you, I know you had a great date and want to see him again. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. Your year-old may want to linger and go down the rabbit hole trying to figure it all out.
Yep, just like he did. I know, you're mature, smart and competent. But every day I coach women like you through situations they wish they didn't get into. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a something, right?