Messages You have no messages. Notifications You have no notifications. All Topics. Type your question. Enter more details. Do men in their late 20's to late 30's typically avoid dating women with children?
What's correct on DNA excuse? Only weeklings cannot help or love despite life problems. Stugots : Is your mom also an old car? Result like you from trap of pregnancy is indeed a mistake. George Send a private message. I have a child but I do prefer dating women without a child. My relationship with her mother is clear cut no drama. Most of the time there is a lot of drama and jealousy involved.
Not for me. George : I feel like thats why im not to keen on dating someone else with kids. My son is 4. Im trying to convince my ex to sign over his rights since he isnt there anyway. But the drama that comes with it.
It would have to depend on if their relationship is civil or not. Weyland Send a private message.
Dating someone who just had a baby
I like women with children. I like kids, but don't want to create them. I've been in the step parent role before and loved it. Being able to make a difference in a child is a great thing, although it is a challenge.
I have a friend who is a single mom with a boy. She complains about men not wanting relationships, and she resents my view of it. She thinks she's putting enough effort into but, she really isn't. Weyland : What would she need to do to make it better? Hierophant Send a private message.
Your best bet for dating is other single fathers. As a single father myself, when I was dating I specifically looked for single mothers because they can relate to my schedule and would understand my kids coming 1st in life. Are you looking at single fathers too? I have a tough time thinking the average single father is saying 'no' to the question of kids - would make him a bit of a hypocrite. I am a single mom. I find this interesting and totally understandable guys would think this way.
However, I would not bring kids into meeting a guy until it got serious and introduce slowly. I would not expect the guy to help out and parent unless we got serious and he felt comfortable. A huge reason to consider a single,mom is because they know what unconditional, selfless love is MORE than a single woman without kids, not always, but I would say personally my kids have taught me so, so much about love and being more caring, forgiving, etc.
Secondly, as a single,mom I feel I am much more mature and emotionally stable than I was before. I also am financially independent and take thinga not as serious as I use to. Kids teach me how to laugh more and,have fun, Thirdly, you get to be a kid again, and,nothings better than that!! Tessa : Yes!! I agree cometely. And bring on the fake bugs or easy bake ovens. Tessa : As a single mom, you are looking for someone to pay for all of your mistakes while you were riding the cock carousel Heard that one before.
NatePerello Send a private message. After reading the comments, everyone obviously has their own opinion towards this topic and we can all agree to disagree. Personally, I feel I wanted to give my input and opinion towards this because this is very interesting. Personally, and preference wise, I won't and wouldn't feel comfortable dating a woman with a kid or kids and I will explain why: Keep in mind, this is simply me expressing my feelings towards this subject; just my opinion.
I would want to experience the birth of my first child with someone who doesn't have any kids. It's not as special when you have your first kid with someone that already has a kid or kids; to me at least. I'm sure someone is thinking "what if you end up having a child and your relationship doesn't work out in the future? You have to be wise with the decisions you make in life. No one is perfect, and if someone is thinking that, you could be right, but at the end of the day, we will never know how our future will work out with our significant other.
We just have to hope for the best. You will always come second in the relationship. Personally, I would love to have that experience in a relationship where I'm all hers and she's all mine; without their kid or kids coming in-between that.
I would want to travel and explore the world with my significant other before settling down. You can't be spontaneous or random with someone that has a kid or kids. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of women out there that find a way, but sometimes, it just doesn't work.
The fact that the father of your significant other will always be around and still communicate with her doesn't sit well with me. Some women stay friends with their ex's, and some fathers aren't in the picture. Also, keep in mind, not all, but some women feel the need to express everything to their ex's when you are having problems with your significant other and that could lead to I think you guys get the picture.
Those are the main points for me as far as why I wouldn't date a woman that has a kid or kids. There are plenty of great guys out there who don't mind if they meet someone that has a kid or kids, and simply get along and the relationship is amazing, but for me, I couldn't do it.
I feel like a lot of single women with a kid or kids might get offended or feel some type of way with what I am about to point out, but again, this is just how I feel and view things. I am 28 years old, I use to be one of those fat kids growing up, but I lost a lot of weight and have the best body I have ever had, I have a muscular build; 6 pack abs, in shape, and healthy; I just thought I would throw that in there to give you perspectiveI have a career that people would kill for I work for myself; I'm my own bossI am more than financially stabled, I am independent, I can cook, I'm clean; as is my home, I feel like I have an amazing personality, and I would consider myself a handsome young man at least that's what I and others think.
I haven't dated since high school because I have been focusing on myself and my career Note: I've never been in a serious relationship. With that being said, I feel as though I am too good to be with someone that has a kid or kids. I have worked real hard on myself and my career to end up with someone with baggage. I'm not trying to be or sound messed up, but I feel as though I deserve better than that; I've been through enough with rejections and girls breaking my heart by not giving a good guy like myself a chance.
Everyone deserves happiness in their life in finding that special someone. I hope I was able to give people some insight from someone that views this topic differently than others.
NatePerello : You are spot on correct. Dantheman Send a private message. I avoid women with kids because of the following :- The experience i had with single mums is there was always the real dad in the background, he took an instant dislike to you, you are told to be careful around her kids with how you explain who you are. This is how i experienced dating single mums a few years ago, it really put me off. The other thing that put me off is when ur given the impression that ur lucky when they realise you have a free life, the mother of the kids makes you feel guilty, The other thing that puts me off is the fact that a few are just money grabbers.
I ve experienced this on one occasion. I personally would rather be single than deal with all the drama associated with other people's kids. I know this isn't the case with all mothers, it very much depends on their attitude really. Thought id just share my experience with single mums.
Dantheman : The mother's attitude is only part of the issue. The emotional firestorm that happens after a family break up is no place for a man without children. The woman can try all she wants but if the kids and their father want you gone then you will be.
If you have kids then it's different because you are both in the same boat Thank you for all your responses!
It's great to hear directly from the source as there are many reasons posted that I've never even considered. And to answer your question CaliMAn, some benefits would be that single moms, for the most part, don't play games no time! Any advice on what I can do or maybe include in my profile that might ease any fears? Some background: My son is almost 4 and so while more dependent on me than a 10 year old, he's not a baby either. I absolutely intend to keep my son and my dating life separate so no one will be meeting my son until I become serious with someone and we've decided it's the right time.
Anonymous : If I were you, I would leave my son out of my dating profile. You have on there that you have kids but other than that you need to be seen as a woman who may be dateable not somebody's momma. As screwed up as it is, you are looking for somebody that likes you in spite of you having kids. Its a weird thing I know but it is pretty much reality. Zombie Send a private message. Anonymous : Honestly, you should post the text of your profile and we can help you more that way.
Some things that sound innocuous to women, set off red flags for men. Also don't expect that every single mom has her crap together like you say you do. There're a lot of women in that situation by choice or by circumstance who are not competent adults. Unfortunately, the stigma those women have earned is shared among the group whether you deserve it or not to a certain extent anyways.
Anonymous : "don't play games no time! Stugots : You have no right to preach. I'm a 51 year old male and in my mid 20's after becoming a Vice President I met recently divorced woman at a bar named Joan. She was beautiful. As the evening progressed and after several drinks and long conversation progressed she had the basic low down on who I was and I also understood that she was recently divorced with two children.
Her husband had cheated on her. To make a long story short we ended up back at my house around 1 a. The kids were not the issue. I've now been married for 18 years and look back on Joan with a few regrets. I simply wasn't mature enough not enough in savings, not enough experience, frankly probably not enough courage to handle being an instant daddy.
I often wonder what my life would be like if I stuck it out. Probably no worse off than now and frankly the sex was out of this world. Don't be afraid to explore new territory or accept additional responsibility in your life. You never know what it may lead to.
Horpylorf Send a private message. Anonymous : What does being vice president spelled in big letters have anything to do with dating a woman with children? Are we supposed to be impressed? We re not. Seek out narcissism and neutralize it in all its subversive forms. Anonymous : I like this man. A real man acknowledges his shortcomings and grows from it. Good for you, don't do something your gut says you might regret!!
Taking extra responsibility as dear as children can be a huge blessing for you and them!!!! Love is a gift, loves lives given!! Anonymous : She would have destroyed you, you made the right call. Anonymous : Real man's approach.
I love the honesty. Roberts Send a private message. Relationship are hard enough without a baby daddy in the background. Financially responsible for children that will treat me as an outsider. No thanks. There is absolutely no reason to date a single mother, the world is NOT running out of women. Stugots : Great one!!! Stugots : Please don't date them.
Roberts : Real men will never be treated as outsiders They are loved. You know what it says about you? You need self-improvement to get to decent level. May88 Send a private message. Everyone has a stereotypical view of a single mum, however you cannot base general opinions on this in reality. To the men on here I think you are doing yourselves a disservice, there are many great men with the capacity to love beyond shared dna just like there is for women.
Personally I see having kids as a positive as it weeds the good from the bad without having to actually do anything. In response to some of the shitty comments that I see as derogatory towards single mums. There are good and bad people with and without kids so be more open minded to giving people a chance. I have worked hard to get where I am all without the help of any man so why would I take from one now. Some of us single mums have strength, determination and strong morals that are enhanced by the need to do right by our kids.
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I drink less have zero flings, more focus and a much more grounded life. I believe many men would prefer that to someone who has a string of exes, one night stands and goes out getting on it every week. Chloe Send a private message. May88 : Well said and included right there with you! May88 : Not credible.
Men should not do anything but have protected sex with single moms. Wondering what the pros are to a woman with kids bc I dont know of any. Brad : Were great at scheduling. Our kids need to be at places at certain times, so we have plenty of pratice. We always have snacks on us. Youre still hungry after dinner?
Heres a snack. Typically, we dont need you.
Weve got our finances covered, weve learned to be handy im ripping up carpet and laying down hardwood floors nowwe can cook a great meal on a dime. You get the chance to do things as a kid you never got to do.
You werent allowed to play with an easy bake oven because it was a "girls toy", well now you have every excuse to. Your dad never played catch with you? Now you can. Brad : Because they are women too. For me it's mostly because I was raised by a single mother, meaning that there was a parade of men coming in and out of my life, most of whom were terrible people that have given me a plethora of emotional issues since and I don't want to become that which I hate.
Next reason is that the lady in my life is the most important thing to me but that wouldn't be reciprocated yep, selfish of me. If we had a child together of course I'm going to have a preference for my own biological child over the step-child and that's not fair either.
Also baby-daddy dramas sound awful, I wouldn't want to deal with an ex on the reg. A post divorce family is in emotional turmoil and the children are completely thrown by it all. It is an act of supreme folly for a childless man to enter such as situation. Put simply, you have very little say in the progress of your relationship so why the hell be there? Patrick Send a private message. Another reason is women are very utiendakiteboarding.comedictable and are very powerful in legal matters.
A woman scorned or just crazy and wants revenge for something a man did to her she can. Men all over are incarcerated for things they didn't do because of a woman. Its already to risky getting involved with a woman these days and one with kids is even worse. Rafaela Send a private message. Patrick : You should start dating those poor men incarcerated cause all women are so dangerous and out of control.
Most of my friends say they dream of calling The police to falsely acuse men for Child abuse. Actually, that is all we think about from day 1 after meeting a Guy. Been there done that I have taken chances more than once to date a woman with a child. Don't get me wrong I like kids they can be fun.
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But always using that excuse kids this and kids that. It can be annoying after a while. I'm dating a divorced dad with 2 children. Although the ex wife has the children a majority of the time, there's still a lot of time and money that goes to into them. Like most women, I like kids and babies. Yet, I dont want the financial burden of another woman's children, who have ADHD and other developmental problems. For one, I have very little say in how the children should be raised and I get very little gratitude for my contributions.
My guy fiance is starting his own business and so he doesnt have a lot of money.
We live together, and I have ended up with the bulk of the living expenses. His kids are the one major strain on the relationship. I blame myself for disliking his spoiled brats. At the same time, how else am I supposed to react to this lopsided situation and the awkwardness of having to be a part of this fragmented family?
It could also be that I've not like the Generation X's helicopter parenting style. Other than that, my fiance and I have a lot in common. A less than perfect situation but I suppose there could be worse.
Edited on September 4, at UTC by the author. Martin Send a private message. Because it makes it harder to have kids of your own if the girl already has children. Baby daddy drama. The mother pays more attention to her children then her man usually.
Disrespect and rejection from the stepkids. Plus it's more expensive and hard to spend money on kids who don't love you and are not your own just to be with their mom. Not worth it in my book.
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Only way I'd date a single mom is if I was a single dad. I can't put myself through that and I wouldn't put that on anyone else. AnonymousTruth Send a private message. I as a single woman with no children. I personally feel there is a double standard. When a man is single or divorced, he feels he is entitled to date women with no children, be considered as a prize and all sorts of things. But when there is a woman who is in the same exact category, I have seen men say the women do not deserve a second chance at true love or marriage.
Now, I do understand and feel it is fair that some men do not wish to be with a woman who already has children. That is fine, everyone has their preferences.
I do however feel that the very same rules should be applied to single fathers, and divorced single fathers too no matter how attractive they are.
On dating sites and in other singles spaces, there are tons of men who reveal "I have kids" And they feel they are a good catch for single women who are childless.
These men should be not considered to be the best choice for women to get involved with. Maybe a single dad will try to use a young woman with no kids to take on the responsibilities and duties of being his kids mum Sterling Send a private message. Straight forward, I bring enough to the table that I don't need to settle in that ct or any others. Reason: Vast range of unknown, most of which Kingslayer mentioned. Maybe you have to stop online dating. I had a handicap as well, called old age. Even my 10 years my junior husband said that he would never have searched for a woman as old as I am.
I also had a little bit of another handicap called race. Very few men respond to black women's profiles. So I stopped online dating and began living in real life.
When I was in my early twenties I had a string of young women who I couldn't stand. They were immature, irresponsible, didn't have a mind of their own, and badgered me constantly about wanting a baby. I wanted a woman who had been there, done that, and gotten over it about everything in life, not just having children. By the time I was twenty four, I was looking at women forty, fifty, sometimes rarely even sixty years old.
Don't you or any woman think your age is bad. As a mature woman you are not held back, you do not burden your partner, with inexperience and uncertainty!
Apparently "35" was a hard limit for a lot of men. I have absolutely ZERO sympathy for her. Stugots : Um, actually she was was divorced. Stugots : What's right on having zero sympathy? Milan Send a private message. Most single fathers are really looking for someone to help take care of their child, for someone looking for a relationship it isnt best dating a single father unless u are looking for extra baggage untop of ur own.
Milan : Goes both ways. Clegane : Reasons I will not date a woman with a child: By their very nature, a woman will treat her child as first priority in everything. Now I understand this is a good thing, but when I am a single guy walking into the picture, I don't like the thought of it. I can take it or leave it, in which case I choose to leave it.
Also, I have tried dating women with children in the past because they tend to be homey and serious, which I was always a mature man for my age and love a home-bound woman or serious-about-life woman. But when they put on their online profile that "my kid is my life" or "I want a man that can treat my kid great" just doesn't sit well with me.
Us men know that the kid is their life, but I would be more wanting to date such a woman if she would at least downplay the child thing. It is more inviting if the woman would just downplay their child instead of bolt out at first glance that "my child is my life and you are not welcome in my or my child's life unless you are a stable and serious man".
I am a stable and serious man and I still get offended at that typical online profile saying.
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When females post "I want a man who will treat my kid s well", what she is saying is she wants a beta simp who will pay for everything while taking a back seat to her every demand. Stugots : Alpha can have all. Because they CAN.
Women, bills, kindness. Omegas have fears and can't anything. Steve Send a private message. I wouldn't date a woman with kids for a number of reasons. First off, you'd always be number two in the woman's life behind her number one priority. So I"d be making her number one in my life but she'd be making me number two. This would be fine if they were my biological kids. She also wanted a baby if a certain nationality. I think its wrong and goes to show how selfish some women are.
I do feel bad for her ex, especially if he only wanted to wait another year or so. After waiting five years for a wedding she might have thought that timeline would be pushed back further and further whenever it got close. That's not much comfort to him though! Log in or sign up to post a comment! Recent posts in Debates and Discussions!
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Having a baby with someone you only just started dating: So a friend of DH's has recently been left heart broken by his long term girlfriend. She left him, broke off their engagement after being together for over 10 years. They are both She left him because she wanted to have a baby and he wasn't ready yet. He wanted to wait another year or two but she wanted one straight. You deal with it away from and by leaving him. Doesn't matter if it happened in a break or while you were together. He doesn't respect you, the responsibility that comes with sex and relationships. He recklessly brought a child in the world. They. this is crazy, we are talking about men who have babies on the way or just had one, ladies get a life really and stay away. it will take time for the mother of the child to get used to being abandoned by the father. its a funny thing to push a baby from your body then to have the man take off to be in another relationship with someone else. duh.
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Connect with us. This Internet site provides information of a general nature and is designed for educational purposes only. Commenter Cassandra. Dee recommends you also look out for people who show a little interest, but expect you to insist on a date so they can always feel wanted. When it seems like it keeps coming up and seems forced. Sex is a big part of a normal adult relationship, but there are plenty of red flags that can appear in and around the bedroom early on. Marin suggests two major bedroom-related red flags to keep an eye out for:.
Both of these red flags spell out trouble in the future. Many of you pointed out this obvious red flag, but selfishness can actually manifest a lot of different ways. For example, your cute date Lola might shrug off the things that matter to you, all the while expecting you to show interest in the things she likes.
You hear those trumpets? They may have been really nervous the first time they met you. Or maybe they acted selfishly at first because they wanted to impress you. Go beyond the first, awkward coffee date and try to get to know someone.
That red flag you noticed might not actually be red in the right light.
You might want to give someone a few dates before you pull the plug. Give them a chance to relax and get comfortable being themselves around you.
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